About 2 months ago a woman from my home town (just a few years younger than me) lost her daughter due to a drunk driver. She has been sharing Livi’s story with everyone. She was a kind, loving little girl who loved to help people. Without knowing how big it would become she started the #livinforlivi movement and it’s been amazing. It’s so easy. Just be nice. Be kind. Help someone. Pay it forward.
Love always wins
Alivia’s Mom posts “all I ask of all of you to do is Live for Livi. Give for no reason, love , share , make someone smile and just be kind! Oh and NEVER Drink and Drive!”
I saw a post on Facebook recently about “lunch shaming” for kids whose lunch balances at school are too high. Who knows why these parents haven’t kept up with it? It doesn’t matter.
I asked at school and I was able to pay off the balance for several families. I don’t share this so that everyone says “Look at her being generous” I share this because I want everyone to do something nice for someone else. I don’t know who these families are that I helped. I don’t care. I’m just glad I was fortunate enough to do it and I hope that they pay it forward in some way.
You never know what battles someone else is fighting and how just a small kindness can turn the tide for them.
Over the last few months we’ve had so much going on in life that I’ve let my nutrition slack some. I really started to feel it lately. The scale is stuck, my brain is foggy, and I feel blah a lot. Finally I decided to do something about it. I know a lot of people who have done the 3 Day Refresh from Beachbody and had great success. They’ve lost 3-5 lb. and just felt better all around. In this blog I’ll share my experience with it.
Full disclaimer: I am a Beachbody Coach. If you purchase anything through the links in the post I will be paid commission. You’ll also get me as your Coach to help you!
I started the day with my workout (I did a Country Heat video since they recommend a light workout while doing the refresh) then I had my Chocolate Shakeology. I got my before pictures, weight and measurements I followed the plan exactly and honestly wasn’t hungry, other than when I was supposed to be. It was pretty easy to do (except for the Fiber Sweep! That is gross!)
These are my meals from Day 1, other than my Shakeology since I drank it before I remembered to take a picture.
Day 2 – Thursday June 1st
Got my workout done first thing as usual (another Country Heat video) it’s not a hard workout for me but boy do I miss my Energize! It really makes such a huge difference in how much energy I have to give my workouts. Had my shake for breakfast while driving kids to school. I was dreading the Fiber Sweep but I tried making it with less water so I could get it down faster. I chugged it like I was back in college and got it down better than the 1st day. Oh wait, what am I saying? I NEVER went to parties and drank in college 🙂 I did make a small tweak today and had an extra fruit serving after my karate class.
Day 2 meals & snack
Day 3 – Friday June 2nd
Finished another Country Heat video today and had my shake while getting ready for the day. I’ve got a busy day so while I had some time this morning I got my lunch and dinner together so they are already in the fridge to just grab when I’m hungry. Did the Fiber Sweep with less water again today but I’m not gonna lie, I’m glad that was the last one. Today I was hungrier than I was the other days. I was also really tired, but I also didn’t sleep great (Thanks, anxiety). I made another tweak here and I had my dinner salad before my daughter’s volleyball game and my shake after.
Day 3 meals & snack
Results – Saturday June 3rd
It’s results day. I’m pleased to say I lost 4 lb. and 1” from my waist. I’m not really feeling as good as I had hoped to but I’ve heard sometimes things continue to detox for a few more days so we’ll see. I did learn that I haven’t been spacing my meals and snacks out well which could very well be messing with my metabolism. Often, I wouldn’t eat anything until after being up almost 3 hours and then wouldn’t eat again for over 4 hours. I was eating most of my Portion Fix Containers in the afternoon and evening. I’m going to work on changing that. Hopefully that will help me shed these last 10 lb.
So would I recommend the 3 Day Refresh? I’m betting you are thinking “Of course, she will! She’s a Coach and she wants to make money off of me!” Well, honestly I will say I’m not sure I’d do it again, at least not anytime soon. I mean, yes I lost 4 lb. in 3 days but, I think this type of thing just isn’t for me. Not saying it’s a bad product or it didn’t work, just not for me. Who knows, maybe I’ll try it again at some point. So should you try it? That’s up to you. Do you want to drop a few pounds in just a few days? Have your eating habits gotten out of control and you need a jump start? Then the 3 Day Refresh may be perfect for you. If you aren’t sure, contact me and we can talk about it.
There are so many myths and misconceptions out there about mental illness. These mislead people and often cause people not to seek treatment. So much stigma surrounds mental health that people are ashamed or embarrassed by it. Someone can have asthma because their lungs and airways don’t work quite right. A person can have diabetes because their body doesn’t produce enough insulin. Neither of these illnesses are judged or have a stigma attached. So why is it different because someone brain doesn’t make enough serotonin?
Michelle Obama said “Whether and illness affects your heart, your leg or your brain, it’s still an illness and there should be no distinction”
So often when someone finds out that my daughter has OCD they say something like “oh so she washes her hands a lot?” or “Her room must be so clean!” Yeah, not so much. This is her room. It looks like a bomb went off.
There are different types of OCD and it is very different for everyone. What my daughter thinks is dirty really isn’t but she loves playing in the dirt and is a big slob. It’s very illogical and that makes it all the harder for all of us to deal with it.
The simplest things in life cause me great anxiety. I have trouble making a phone call. I make plans to meet a friend but cancel at the last minute or I just keep declining invitations. If someone doesn’t answer my text or email quickly I think I did something wrong. I don’t participate in a group conversation. Sometimes people think I’m rude for this behavior but it’s the anxiety. Most days I can fight it and win, or at least fake it pretty well, but some days I’m just too exhausted from the fight.
Stop the Stigma
Please don’t take how the media portrays mental illness as the end all be all. Ask questions, learn about it, and support those suffering. Offer help. One of the best things you can say to someone when they share that they are suffering is “How can I help?” They may turn you down but just asking will make a difference.
A few months ago I started listening to personal development podcasts in the morning while getting ready. Before I used to listen to music but I decided this was a better use of my time. Lately I’ve been thinking that music has its importance too.
I’ve been struggling with my anxiety and confidence lately so the last few days I decided to listen to what I call my anthems in the morning. These are songs that I really connect with. They speak to me. I feel stronger after listening to them. I sing along with them, loudly (I can’t sing so I know it sounds terrible but I don’t care!)
These are the 4 that are on my “Anthem” playlist right now. Let it Go(yes the one from Frozen) by Idina Menzel
The lyrics of this song resonated so strongly with me I cried in the middle of the movie theater. You can read more about that here. Don’t Put Dirt on My Grave From the TV show Nashville
This one really hits home for me with my anxiety and helping my daughter fight her OCD. I keep getting stronger and if you push me I’ll push harder!
This time it’s goodbye trouble I feel the light at the end of this tunnel I get stronger with every step Come Hell, come high water You push on me I’m going to push back harder I got a whole lot more than a little bit left Oh, so don’t put dirt on my grave just yet Oh, don’t put dirt on my grave just yet
Roar by Katy Perry
Things can hold me down but I’m always going to get back up because I’m a fighter!
You held me down, but I got up (hey!) Already brushing off the dust You hear my voice, your hear that sound Like thunder, gonna shake your ground You held me down, but I got up Get ready ’cause I’ve had enough I see it all, I see it now I got the eye of the tiger, a fighter Dancing through the fire ‘Cause I am the champion, and you’re gonna hear me roar Louder, louder than a lion ‘Cause I am a champion, and you’re gonna hear me roar!
Fight Song by Rachel Platten
I’m taking back my life and proving that I’m going to be alright!
This is my fight song Take back my life song Prove I’m alright song My power’s turned on Starting right now I’ll be strong I’ll play my fight song And I don’t really care if nobody else believes ‘Cause I’ve still got a lot of fight left in me
They are my anthems. What about you? What song hits home for you?
It’s been a hard week in our house. The OCD monster is back with a vengeance. Dealing with that is causing my anxiety to go through the roof. It’s been a major struggle to get through a day. But it has helped to remind me just how much support we have.
I’m not looking for pity or sympathy. I’m looking for support and understanding. Don’t judge me when you see my child having a meltdown and I don’t seem to be dealing with it the “right” way. Don’t judge her when you see her do something strange. It might be the only way she can cope with the situation. Until you’ve spent a day in our shoes, don’t judge. To give you a glimpse of our life, here are some things that happened this week.
I had my first 504 plan meeting at G’s school. We’ve always known it needed to be done but the staff worked with us so well we just decided to wait. Things have gotten bad enough, and she only has one more year at this school, so it was decided to start the process now. I know it’s what’s needed, and I know the school only has her best interests at heart but it’s so overwhelming to try to lay it all out; makes me feel like a failure. Every day I have to hear from the staff or other kids about all the things she’s doing “wrong”, all the things she’s struggling with. I know I need to know this stuff, and I ask to be told, but that doesn’t make it any easier to hear.
We spent her lunch time in the office trying to calm her down so she could eat. She was having a melt down because even though she wanted to be in the lunchroom eating lunch she couldn’t. All because the lunch before hers got out a little late and the benches and tables didn’t get wiped down like normal. You might think this is silly (and she knows it’s not logical) but the OCD will not let her and sometimes she’s just not strong enough to fight it. And when I ask her what I can do to help she just screams at me because she is so frustrated because she doesn’t know or understand. Imagine trying to fight a bully 24 hours a day. How many adults are strong enough for that? She’s 8!
They are doing the M-STEP standardized tests this week. After dealing with the lunch problem it was her first day of testing. She couldn’t even step into the computer lab because it wasn’t the same lab they always use. When they were finally able to get her in the room she couldn’t sit in the chair or use the mouse since she didn’t know who touched it before. Once they got her a new mouse and got her going she still had to take this test (standing, by her choice) with all that anxiety. (Thank God our school has such supportive and understanding staff!)
Meanwhile, during all of this stress with G, I’m trying to help L get ready to leave for a 2 night camping trip with her school where it’s going to be in the mid-40’s and rain constantly!
Wednesday was a stronger day. I received so many comments and messages of support I was overwhelmed. It helps more than people realize. Some times on this journey I feel so alone and I forget how many people have my back and support us.
As usual, I have recess duty 4 days a week. Often people comment about how they don’t know why I do it. The kids! That’s why. It’s Staff Appreciation week, just out of the blue, a boy handed me a note. “Dear Mrs. Springer, Thank you so much for being a great person and watching the 3rd graders and taking time out of your day” At pickup another boy and mom handed me one of those large Ikea shopping bags and inside was a Costco size bag of coffee (now explains the strange questions about what I like to drink )
More lunchtime issues but she is able to pull it together and eat lunch in the cafeteria. After lunch we try to take her to the office, just to talk with her and get her to give us input to help her but she has a meltdown. First because she thinks she’s in trouble, then it builds because she doesn’t want to talk about it (it’s really hard for her) and all she wants is to go back to class. I ended up crying on several shoulders that I never would have thought of crying on.
Even with all her issues, G can always make me laugh.
Bedtime conversation with one night:
G: (out of the blue) I’m going to miss you when you’re dead.
Me: um, ok?
G: but I call dibs on your car…… oh! And your jewelry!
I guess my point in all this rambling is just to give you an idea of what we go through. And to remind everyone that it is OK to ask for help or just to say “I’m not OK” You probably have more support out there than you know.